Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, leaving many people at a loss for what to give their special someone. Those in new relationships may want to make a great first impression, while those in long-term relationships could be looking for something new and interesting. Outside of the couples, many single friends celebrate the day together with a gift exchange.
If you’re struggling to find the perfect Valentine’s Day gift, here are some ideas to get you started.
What’s Your Relationship?
First, consider how you would define your relationship. While defining your relationship is a point of contention for some newer couples, getting a general sense of where your relationship stands is a necessary starting point.
If you’re a new, casual couple, consider something lighthearted and simple. A small box of chocolates or a sexy game will acknowledge the day without putting too much pressure on the meaning behind it. Conversely, if you’re an established couple, it’s better to opt for something more personal or elaborate.
Remember that communication is important here so that everyone is on the same page and expectations are managed.
How Well Do You Know the Person?
If you’re just getting to know someone, buying a personal gift can be challenging. As such, some gifts are better left on the shelves. For example, if you aren’t sure of the person’s clothing size, you probably shouldn’t chance a guess and buy lingerie.
This theory also applies to friends who exchange Valentine’s gifts, not just couples. For example, buying some matching wholesale bracelets for the group of women you work out with at the gym is a nice gesture. For your lifelong best friend, you might create a more personal “Reasons Why I Love You” book. It’s all about knowing what feels right for your relationship.
What Kinds of Things Do They Like?
Don’t buy a gift for the sake of buying a gift. It doesn’t have to be something deep and meaningful, but it should at least be something the person would like.
Consider what things the person enjoys, from their favorite hobbies to television shows. Use this information to guide the gift-buying process. While the gift may not be strictly romantic or related to Valentine’s, at least it will be something that brings them joy.
What’s Their Love Language?
“The 5 Love Languages” is a self-help book that evolved into a cultural phenomenon. Many counselors and relationship specialists use this resource as a guide for understanding the relationships in your life. Someone’s “love language” identifies what actions translate to affection in their personality.
The languages include:
- Acts of service
- Words of affirmation
- Quality time
- Physical touch
So, if the person seems to respond well to gifts, you’ll want to buy them a physical item. If they treasure quality time, planning a day together is the best possible gift. For acts of service, you could make them a nice dinner or have their car detailed. If their love language is words of affirmation, have a poem created or write them a letter. Finally, a full body massage is perfect for those who love physical touch.
Keep in mind that your love language and theirs might be completely different!
What Do They Need?
Consider giving the person on your list a practical gift that will benefit their life in some way, rather than just a symbolic gift. For example, many people are newly working from home. What gifts could you provide that would improve this experience?
Maybe your wife’s favorite leggings have holes in them. Buying her a new pair shows that you are paying attention.
Look for Clues
No one is a closed book when it comes to the things they want or enjoy. Do some recon to determine what gift they might love to be surprised with on Valentine’s Day. Scour through their Instagram shares or Pinterest boards. Make notes on your phone when they mention something throughout the year. In other words, channel your inner James Bond — he was both a romantic and a spy, after all.
With these simple considerations, you’ll find that perfect gift for your special someone this Valentine’s Day.